Whether you’re in a committed relationship or not, there is nothing better than getting to enjoy your first sleepover with that special someone, especially after months of self-isolating. You’ve waited months to see this person and you’re ready to take the next steps. However, if your brain is a little rattled on how to go about this new experience then here is a helpful guide on acing your first sleepover date.
Try Your Best To Relax
Your first adult sleepover might seem overwhelming, especially if you haven’t seen your partner or friend with benefits since lockdown, but you have to remember to breathe! Don’t feel any pressure to do anything you are not comfortable with. Remember your consent is always needed to move forward in every sexual activity, and if you decide you are not ready for that serious next step, don’t feel ashamed to say no. However, if you are ready to take the next steps, but are having sex-related difficulties, then try talking to your partner beforehand to help ease any expectations. If you’re a woman struggling with vaginal dryness consider trying a vaginal lubricant to help lubricate the area and minimize any pain. Or maybe you are a man who struggles with achieving an erection, and needs help in that area? Looking into different ED medications to help you get hard is something to consider. Sorting out any issues beforehand will help you enter the situation with confidence and keep your mind off of any concerns.
Prep Yourself and Your Body
Before heading over you might feel the need to do some pre-sex beauty rituals to get yourself feeling sexy and confident. Grooming for a potentially intimate evening might indicate something different for everybody, so utilize this time for a little self-care. Take a bath in your favorite oils to help enhance your mood and relax you or once you’re out of the shower, apply some coconut oil to your body to leave you feeling nourished and plump. If your partner is coming over to your place make sure to stash some of your favorite lube by your bedside.
If you’re only staying over for the weekend or just one night be cautious about overpacking. You might feel an urge to bring your morning and nighttime routine, as well as your whole wardrobe but remember you only need the essentials. Pack the basics first like your toothbrush, deodorant, cash or credit card, and a change of clothes to get you through the night and morning. Then decide if you need to bring anything else. You’ll also want to pack light in case you decide to leave abruptly throughout your time there. You can also swap your old toiletry bag for a travel bag that includes all the things you might need.
You should be excited about your first night together, so just be yourself and everything will fall into place. If you’re anxious about hitting a lull then bring a sexy card game to amp up the fun, and get to know each other a little more. This will help calm any leftover nerves and create a light atmosphere. You can also suggest a sensual massage to get you and your partner in the right mood. If your partner and you have discussed incorporating sex toys into the bedroom then suggest starting with a vibrator or a butt plug. You can also suggest some role-playing to tap into each other’s fantasies in a safe space.
Your first sleepover date after lockdown should be an enjoyable experience for both parties, and it’s normal to hit a couple of awkward moments throughout the night. Remember that those moments will pass and just try to laugh them off. So enjoy your cuddle time, and have fun!