Advice straight from our expert Jess Wilde on blow job sex tips...
Don't Forget Foreplay!
Foreplay is a great way to build excitement and prepare the penis for receiving a blow job and, depending on the type of foreplay you do, can also make performing a blow job easier too. One of my favourite tips is to perform a nice lubey hand job prior to using your mouth. Many people make the mistake of thinking lube isn’t needed for a blow job as the mouth is already wet, but that isn’t always the case. The general rule is ‘wetter is better’ so why not prep the peen with a drop of lube ahead of time? Adding lube will help your lips glide across his shaft with ease from the get-go and make the whole experience more enjoyable for both of you. You can even use a flavoured lube like the So Divine Strawberry Lubricant to make things even more delicious!
Take Your Time & Build Up Anticipation
Take your time and build anticipation. Taking the time to build excitement transforms a good blow job into an amazing blow job. Start by caressing and kissing your partner everywhere that’s usually hidden by their underwear, except their genitals! Stroke and lick their lower tummy, inner thighs and groin, but don’t go near their shaft or balls until they’re well and truly aroused. Once you feel they can’t take anymore (and if your partner is comfortable with ball play) move onto their balls. Next move onto the shaft of the penis, using your lips and tongue to stimulate the full length of the penis, all except the head. Leave the head of the penis until absolutely last. By the time you’ve spent all this time everywhere else, they’ll be practically begging you to put the head in your mouth. This technique of leaving the head until last not only builds anticipation, but it also increases blood flow to the penis and, therefore, sensitivity. By the time you put the tip in your mouth your partner will be so sensitive the warmth of your mouth will be almost overwhelming.
For your own comfort, I recommend opening your mouth as wide as possible and sticking your tongue out as far as it will go. This will make maximum space inside your mouth to receive a penis and reduce gagging. It also keeps play really wet and sloppy, which is always a winner.
Use Your Hands
If you like the idea of giving your partner oral but you just struggle with performing it, there are some tips which can help, one of which is to use your hands too. Blow jobs don’t have to be all mouth, and by adding your hands to the mix to stroke his shaft, you can use your mouth on just the tip of the penis and create the sensation of you taking the full length, without actually doing so.
Add Lube & Toys For Extra Sensations
Lubes are a great accessory for blow jobs, whether you choose a flavoured one or a simple water-based one, adding lube to your oral play can enhance sensation and slip-factor, which can enhance the experience for both of you. Vibrating toys can also really enhance a blow job. The So Divine Adjustable Vibrating Cock Ring can really amp up pleasure during oral when worn around the base of the penis. The So Divine Vibrating Stimulator is another excellent toy designed to be used on a penis, its curved tip cups the shaft and encircles it with vibrations. It’s great for placing on their penis shaft or head while your mouth looks after their balls. Finally, a trusty butt plug is a surefire way to skyrocket your partner’s pleasure. With a butt plug in place, they can enjoy hands-free anal pleasure while you are left with two free hands and a willing mouth to take care of the rest! The So Divine Silicone Butt Plug is a perfect choice but if you really want to step things up a notch, the So Divine Vibrating Butt Plug is sure to do the trick!
Maintain A Steady Rhythm
Changing rhythm mid way through a blow job can halt the pleasure. You want to start slow, and incrementally increase your rhythm. Then maintain that rhythm. Changing from slow, to fast, to slow again can be a great way to help edge your partner, but if you want to make them cum, maintaining a steady rhythm is key.
The main thing to remember is that everyone is different, and what one person with a penis enjoys, another may not. For example, some people love having the tip of their penis focused on, while others find this area far too sensitive. Some people love deep throat, others really don’t. The biggest mistake people make is not asking their partner what kind of stimulation they like, so be sure to communicate and check in to find out if they like what you’re doing, and if there’s anything you could do differently to really get them there, before you just assume.
Focus On More Than The Penis
The best blow jobs focus on more than simply the penis. The scrotal skin is an extremely sensitive area that can be very pleasurable when touched. I recommend going in gently, and checking in with your partner regularly to see what works for them. Softly licking and maneuvering the loose skin with your tongue and lips is a good place to start and, if you and your partner are comfortable doing so, you can pop a ball at a time in your mouth. Be careful not to suck too hard or twist the balls though as this can be painful! A particularly sensitive area is the perineal raphe (the line up the middle of the of your partner’s balls) so this can be a great area to focus on; try licking up from their perineum all the way up, between their balls to the shaft, and experiment with using a broad flat tongue vs a skinny pointed tongue to see what they like best.
Oral sex is also a great time to explore perineum stimulation and rimming, as these areas are loaded with nerve endings and can produce immense pleasure when stroked and licked. Try combining some shallow rimming with a hand job to really blow their mind.
Pick a Comfortable Position
The best position for performing a blow job all depends on the shape of the penis! If the erection is straight, then almost any comfortable position will work, but if it has a curve, you may want to pick a position in which the head of the penis is ‘facing you’. For example, if your partner has a penis which curves upwards when erect, then positions like a 69 with you on top can be much easier than you being between their legs or kneeling on the floor. If their penis curves down, then the opposite would be true.
If you have long hair it can make things easier if you, and give them a great view, tie your hair up, too.
Have Fun!
Don’t be afraid to get messy and look like you’re having a good time! A sloppy blowie which you’re really into performing will always be a turn on for your partner. Forget trying to ‘look sexy’ (you already do) and have fun!
