Bullet vibrators have always been one of the most popular sex toys on the market, not only are they perfect for those new to using sex toys but also for they are compact and simple to use, whilst offering effective and intense pleasure. Sexpert Debbie Bere answers some of your most asked questions all about bullet vibrators, how you use them and why they are a popular choice when it comes to sex toys.
What is a bullet vibrator?
A bullet vibrator is a small cylindrical vibrator that fits within the palm of your hand. Usually with a rounded or tapered tip they can often have a metallic or silicone finish and come in a variety of colours and designs.
Bullets differ from conventional penetrative vibrators as they tend to be small, really simple to work and are used for external play. Think extra stimulation with pinpoint accuracy perhaps to the clitoris, nipples, perineum, or penis.
Gone are the days when sex toys resemble a penis. These pocket-sized babes are here to rock your world. They are discreet, fun-packed and can spice up your sex life from beginner level to expert.
Why are bullets vibrators so popular?
Bullet vibes due to their size and stature, take the focus away from penetration. This is crucial for those with a vulva with almost 80% needing some sort of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. But, it is also an added little treat if you have a penis too.
A bullet is an excellent starter toy for many out on the hunt for their first battery-operated pleasure provider. Once you own one you can use this to explore your body and different sensations, without breaking the bank. When you find what feels good to you, perhaps you may invest in something a little more specific to your favourite spot that gets you off!
These toys are a space saver too, slipping discretely into your bag for some fun later. Small and non-threatening bullets are a clear teammate rather than a competitor for any partner that perhaps feels vulnerable or gets defensive when you suggest the use of a toy. These vibes can be incorporated into all kinds of sexual play both together and separately.
What are you top tips for using a bullet vibrator?
When you get a bullet vibrator take time to familiarise yourself with the settings. Start the gentlest one and build up, some people like vibrations that are constant other people enjoy the pattern ones. You will find your favourite but it may even be 2 or 3 favourites used in order to build up to your climax.
Remember lube to help with comfort and sensitivity. lube is not just for penetration. It's for all pressure and friction and makes any sexual play more pleasurable – even if it’s a night in for one! lube does not mean you’re not enjoying yourself because you’re not “wet enough”. Actually, our vaginal ‘wetness’ is often down to hormones rather than how turned on you are. So, lube is you’re new absolute bestie.
Why not try gently applying lube to your clitoris and labia, the vulva can experience pleasure from all different areas. Then take your bullet and focus on each side of your vulva, and inner and outer labia as well as your clitoris. Use the whole length of the bullet by holding it on its side not just pointing it. Discover where and what feels good. Why not also try your perineum.
It’s also very important to remember that bullet vibes are not suitable for anal penetration! Anal toys should be specifically designed for such and always have a flared base.
Can you use a bullet during partner play/sex?
Toys are a significant enhancement to partnered play. Bullets make this super easy, they are compact and simple to use and position in the heat of the moment.
Here are a few things that you could try with your partner:
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Penis play – bullets aren’t just for vulvas, when giving a blow job place some lube on the tip of the bullet and place on their perineum just behind the balls. Pushing gently up to massage that spot.
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Hard to reach positions – When in positions where perhaps your clitoris is being neglected (e.g. Doggy, Spooning), get your partner to reach around and help you hold a bullet on your clitoris. This makes the experience more intense, increasing pleasure.
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Zero penetration – Why not take penetrative sex off the table? Explore how you can make each other tick with a variety of sensations, whether it’s nipples, or genitals, perhaps even feet. It is what feels good with the added vibrations of a bullet. Sex shouldn’t just mean intercourse, but all kinds of touch and play that feel good. And is most importantly fun.
When exploring partnered play with the addition of toys, communication and consent are key. Have fun, because really, that’s what sex is all about. It doesn’t need to be super serious. It's okay to get the giggles and enjoy the new experience together.
What should you be looking for when buying a bullet vibrator?
There's something out there for everyone! Silicone-covered tips add a soft and luxe feeling to a simple toy, these also allow the toy to be easily cleaned. Remember though with silicone toys, go for a water-based lube as silicone-based lubes can damage them.
Water resistance is also a good choice as some toys can be used for shower / bath-based fun. This really adds a little something to that candlelit bath for one, or hot steamy shower sex. When buying a bullet check to see if it is Water resistance/ Waterproof.
Charging vs batteries, I for one never have the right size in, and now with sex toys we are also looking at new more environmentally friendly ways to get off. So many new toys come with fab sophisticated chargers now. If how your bullet gets its buzz is important to you, make sure you check out whether it takes batteries or is rechargeable. These recharging capabilities are great, just make sure you keep it charged and ready for when you need it. Nobody wants their bullet dying just as they are getting close!
What are some of your favourite bullet vibrators?
So Divine Satisfaction Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator has a silky smooth texture, is water resistant and rechargeable, plus it features 3 different speeds and 7 patterns.
So Divine Afternoon Delight Bullet Vibrator is ideal for beginners and features a tapered tip that is perfect for massaging any of your external sweet spots such as the clitoris or nipples! Its discreet look and compact size make it the perfect travel companion to take away.
So Divine Cosmo Bullet Vibrator features a rounded tip that is ideal for pin-point stimulation on the clitoris, nipples, penis and perineum. Use during partner play too for extra fun, as it is easy to hold so you can use it during sex for extra pleasure. This petite mini bullet is perfect to take
