Better Sex
6 Sex Resolutions For The New Year
The New Year is the perfect time for a fresh start, and what better place to begin than in the bedroom? Whether you're flying solo or with a partner, these sex-positive resolutions are here to help you bring more fun, confidence and pleasure into your life. Be More Adventurous Let’s be honest, doing the same thing every time can get a little dull. Even small changes can bring back the spark. Try taking things out of the bedroom and into other rooms, spend more time on foreplay, or explore new positions you might usually skip. A little experimentation can go a long way. Experiment with Sex Toys Sex toys are a simple and empowering way to spice things up. If you’ve only dipped your toe into the world of pleasure products, why not explore more? Upgrade from a classic bullet vibrator to something a bit more daring. Booty plugs, for example, can introduce a whole new level of sensation. New year, new toy, new you. Get to Know Your Body Want better orgasms? Start with solo play. The more you understand your own body and what brings you pleasure, the easier it is to communicate that with a partner. Make time to explore what feels good and don’t be afraid to try something new. Pleasure starts with you. Communicate with Your Partner The key to better sex is open, honest communication. Talk about what you like, what you don’t and what you might want to try. Sharing fantasies and preferences can lead to deeper connection and more fulfilling experiences. Remember, you can’t get what you don’t ask for. Build Body Confidence If you’ve ever avoided sex because you were feeling self-conscious, you’re not alone. Many people feel unsure about their bodies, but focusing on what you do love about yourself can make a huge difference. Confidence is powerful, and when you feel good, you’re more likely to fully enjoy the moment. Start 'Sexercising' Strengthen your pelvic floor with regular Kegel exercises. Not only can they help improve bladder control, but they can also intensify your orgasms and make sex feel even better. A few minutes a day can lead to big benefits in the bedroom. So here's to a year filled with more pleasure, more confidence and more connection. You deserve a sex life that feels as good as it should.
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9 Reasons Why You Should Masturbate More Often
Masturbation is a natural and normal part of human sexuality, yet female masturbation still carries a stigma for some. It’s time to change that conversation and focus on the many positive benefits masturbation offers. Enjoying yourself is completely healthy and something everyone should feel comfortable embracing. It Makes You HappyWe all have those stressful days when everything feels overwhelming. Taking some time for yourself with a vibrator or simply exploring your body can help lift your mood. Masturbation triggers the release of oxytocin, often called the “happy hormone,” which can reduce stress and promote feelings of well-being. It Helps You SleepIf you struggle to fall asleep, masturbation might be the perfect solution. The relaxation that follows orgasm can calm your mind and body, making it easier to drift off into a restful sleep. You Get to Know Yourself BetterExploring your body through masturbation helps you discover what feels best for you. The more you learn about your own pleasure, the easier it is to communicate your needs to a partner, leading to a more satisfying sex life. It’s Completely SafeOne of the greatest benefits of masturbation is that it is free from risks related to pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections, as long as you maintain good hygiene with your toys and hands. Better Sex with a PartnerKnowing how you like to be touched and what brings you pleasure means you can teach your partner. This improves intimacy and often leads to more enjoyable sexual experiences for both of you. A Healthy Way to Release Sexual TensionIf you’re experiencing a dry spell or your partner isn’t available, masturbation is a healthy and fulfilling way to satisfy your sexual needs. It Can Boost Confidence and Improve Body ImageRegular self-exploration encourages a positive connection with your body. This increased confidence can carry over into your sexual relationships and everyday life. It Feels Absolutely AmazingAt the end of the day, masturbation is simply pleasurable. It’s a joyful way to connect with yourself and embrace your sexuality. There Are No DownsidesMasturbation is a normal, safe, and enjoyable activity that anyone can benefit from. So go ahead, take some time for yourself, and enjoy the many rewards it offers.
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8 Facts You Didn't Know About Orgasms!
If you didn't know already, it's #NationalOrgasmDay today! While many of us experience orgasms there are a whole bunch of us who are surprisingly lacking when it comes to knowing interesting facts about them, so we've devised a list for you... In the time it takes to read this sentence, an estimated 250,000 people worldwide will have an orgasm. The average female orgasm lasts around 6 to 10 seconds - although for some it can last up to 20 seconds. 47% of women have their first orgasm through masturbation. Some women can orgasms from nipple stimulation alone. On average, it takes about 4 minutes for men to reach orgasm and about 10-20 minutes for women. Most women need direct clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm (around 70%). The clitoris has a whole lot of nerve endings - approximately 8,000! Orgasms may boost our immune systems, due to the endorphins they produce Sources: Bustle; Cosmopolitan; Huff Post; Lehmiller; Masters & Johnson; Daily Mail
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Taking Your Sex Toys On Holiday
It's coming up to that time of year where everyone is either going or planning on going on holiday. So if you're thinking of having a romantic couples retreat then we 100% recommend you pack some sex toys to spice things up a bit. Read our fun-packed guide so you know the do's and don'ts of taking them away... Make sure you do your research! While here in the UK it is absolutely fine to travel to and from places with a stack of sex toys in your case... certain countries around the globe prohibit sex toys (yep that's right). This includes a range of popular locations such as Thailand, Saudi Arabia and the Maldives where sex toys are actually banned from being brought into the country. So to avoid any unnecessary embarrassment make sure you check before you travel! Pack the essentials We recommend taking these... Vibrating Bullet- Our rose gold vibrating bullet is the perfect travel companion for adventures. This small but mighty bullet is an ideal size to take away with you if you're struggling to fit everything in your suitcase as it is lightweight, compact and discreet. Lube - This always comes in handy, but if you're planning on taking some with you, just make sure you're aware of the liquid regulations as you may need to transfer some into a smaller tube depending on the size. Cock Ring - This is the perfect couples toys which won't take up a lot of room in your luggage. We recommend the Mendurance Vibrating Ring to help rock your socks off. Rechargeable Toy - If you're planning a long stay, then a rechargeable is a MUST - you can keep going way longer with one of these bad boys. Try something such as the "Wicked Game" massaging wand which includes a USB charger. Sexy games - Well why not?! If you want to make the most of your time away then some sexy games will make your holiday one to remember! Try out a new daring sex position each night for some frisky filled action. Stay Safe Staying safe abroad is just as important as staying safe at home, so make sure you pack a couple condoms because you just never know when they might come in handy. Remove Batteries If you're taking away a bullet device such as one of our bullet vibrators, make sure you take out the battery first! You don't want to draw unwanted attention to your buzzing suitcase and unnecessary embarrassment.
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What Your Favourite Sex Position Says About YOU
We’re excited to share that So Divine has been featured in The Sun online! In the popular article, sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight breaks down what your favourite sex position says about your personality — and how to elevate your experience in the bedroom. Annabelle highlights the cowgirl position as a favourite for many, praising how it showcases your body while making key erogenous zones like the clitoris and nipples easily accessible. To take this position to the next level, she recommends incorporating a discreet, powerful sex toy like the So Divine ‘Halo’ vibrating bullet. With its tapered tip designed for pinpoint clitoral stimulation, the Halo vibrator adds extra pleasure and intensity during cowgirl. According to Annabelle, women who prefer the cowgirl position tend to be confident, assertive, and know exactly what they want in their relationships. Ready to explore new ways to enjoy your favourite positions? Check out Annabelle Knight’s full article on The Sun online: What Your Favourite Sex Position Says About You.
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What is a clitoral suction vibrator?
Clitoral suction stimulators, often referred to as clit suckers, air pulsators, and clitoral suction vibrators are a groundbreaking type of sex toy designed to stimulate the clitoris in a unique and highly satisfying way. Unlike conventional vibrators that rely on vibrations to create stimulation, these stimulators use a combination of air pulses and gentle suction to target the clitoral nerve endings more precisely. This technology allows for a more gentle, rhythmic, and touch-free experience, offering users an entirely new level of pleasure. How Do Clitoral Suction Stimulators Work? Clitoral suction stimulators typically have a small, soft silicone head that fits comfortably over the clitoris. They can create a pulsating airwave around the clitoral region, generating a gentle vacuum that imitates the sensation of oral sex. These toys usually come with adjustable intensity settings, allowing you to customise your experience to a setting that suits you. How to use a clitoral suction vibrator? Select a Comfortable Setting: Many clitoral suction vibrators come with different intensity levels and patterns. Choose a setting that feels comfortable for you, especially if it's your first time using one. Start with a lower intensity and gradually increase it as you get more accustomed to the sensations. Apply Lube: Apply a water-based lubricant to the clitoral area and the nozzel of the clit sucker. Place on the Clitoris: Gently spread the labia to expose the clitoris and place the nozzle or opening of the vibrator over the clitoral glans (the external part of the clitoris). Ensure the nozzle makes a good seal around the clitoris to enhance the suction effect. Turn on the Clit Sucker: Press the power button to turn on the vibrator and select your desired intensity or pattern. Experiment with Movements: You can experiment with different movements to find what feels best for you. Some people prefer keeping the suction toy in one place, while others enjoy moving it around the clitoral area or using circular motions. The difference between a classic vibrator and a suction toy Stimulation Technique: The most significant difference lies in how they stimulate the clitoris. Vibrators rely on vibration patterns and intensities, while suction stimulators use air pulses and gentle suction. Sensation: While vibrators deliver more generalised vibrations, clitoral suction stimulators offer a more targeted and realistic sensation, mimicking the feeling of oral sex. Intensity Customisation: Clitoral suction stimulators often come with adjustable intensity levels, whereas vibrators offer various vibration patterns and speeds. Orgasm Type: Some users find that clitoral suction stimulators provide deeper and more intense orgasms compared to traditional vibrators. When choosing between the two, personal preference is key. Some may prefer the tried-and-true vibrations of traditional vibrators, while others may crave the innovative, mind-blowing experiences that clitoral suction stimulators have to offer. Ultimately, both options cater to individual desires and preferences, ensuring that everyone can find the perfect pleasure companion for their unique needs. The best clit sucker for beginner’s… The Pearl Suction stimulator is a great choice if you have never used a suction stimulator before and are looking to try an affordable stimulator that is not going to break the bank. The award winning clit sucker previously won the award for best new sexual wellness device in the UK and was also shortlist in the global awards! Key Features: - 11 Suction Intensities - Premium silicone head - Great for beginners who have never tried a suction toy before - A budget friendly clit sucker - RRP £29.99 The best all round clit sucker... Irreplaceable Suction Stimulator is your suction toy upgrade you didn’t know you needed! It is the OG clit sucker! Irreplaceable is fully submersible so you can enjoy bath time and shower pleasure sessions with this toy unlike the Pearl suction. It is also USB rechargeable so you don’t need to worry about rushing around trying to find new batteries once the toy has died. It is also one of our best selling sex toy’s for a reason… you will need to find out why! Key Features: - 11 Suction Intensities - USB Rechargeable so you can go again and again - Water Resistant for pleasurable bath & shower experiences - Premium Silicone - A great choice if you want to upgrade your clit suction - RRP £45 The best clit sucker for those who enjoy penetrative vibes... The Pearl Vibe 2in1 Suction Stimulator & G-spot Vibrator is a clit sucker that also doubles up as a penetrative g-spot toy so you can enjoy stimulation on both pleasure zones at the same time! The power stimulator head features 11 suction intensities, whilst the G-spot vibrator has 3 speeds and 7 pulsating patterns so you can enjoy a delightful blended orgasm. Key Features - Ideal for those who enjoy dual stimulation - Offers both clitoral and g-spot stimulation - Perfect for more experienced toy users - USB Rechargeable - RRP £65
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What is BDSM, and why experiment with it in the bedroom?
Ever wondered what BDSM is and why you should experiment with it in the bedroom? In this enlightening blog post, we embark on a journey guided by our sexpert Debbie, shares her knowledge on the topic of BDSM. What is BDSM, and why experiment with it in the bedroom? BDSM stands for: Bondage – tied/tying up or restrained/restraining someone, Discipline/Domination – Power play, Sadism/Submission – Sadism is enjoying inflicting pain, Masochism – Enjoyment from experiencing pain. For some people BDSM is a kink, they enjoy it from time to time but don’t need it for sexual satisfaction. For others it’s a fetish, a requirement for pleasure. It’s the taking away of senses and heightening others; limiting movement or shifting in control. This can be a source of real enjoyment for many. Perhaps it’s a form of escapism from everyday roles or labels. A release, finding pleasure from the taboo or just something you’ve always fancied giving a try. Experimenting with BDSM can lead to another level of connection for sexual partners. But, there must be a lot of trust, this kind of play requires time and explores each other’s boundaries. Can you be a feminist and enjoy BDSM? Absolutely. Feminism is about equality for all. BDSM good practice is deeply entrenched in respect; although from the outside looking in it may not seem like it. Once you understand good safe practice you will see it’s about pleasure for all. Discovering your sexual self, being free to do so without shame or judgement is perhaps one of the strongest feminist moves of all. Deciding your role in BDSM rather than succumbing to the role your partner wishes for you to play. The freedom of sexual choice, sexual pleasure and sexual play. For many women, BDSM is an escape from the mental load. Choice is taken away from them. They are able to explore a loss of control and let go. What are tips for BDSM beginners? The 3 Cs... Communication: Know each other’s limits appreciating they may change. Consent: Just because someone consented to BDSM play before doesn’t mean they do the next time. Every act needs consent. Comfort: Just like many things, the fantasy of BDSM may not match the reality. Porn can lead us to think it’s all going to look or feel a certain way. It needs to be enjoyable for all involved. Find your comfort levels. Aftercare – BDSM play can be super intense. So take time after. Lie or sit with each other. Come slowly from that BDSM space back to real life. The drop or come down can be difficult to navigate. Start slow – don’t go straight into full hog tie with ball gag. Take time to explore what works for you. Playing with smaller individual elements first and work your way up. What are the BDSM essentials every couple needs? For any sexual play. Lube. Lube. Lube. Especially if taking time to explore BDSM and sexual stimulation. So Divine’s intimate water-based lube is great place to start! Looking at beginner items. Why not try: Silk Restraints are a great starter. These are very sensual, and not quite as severe as ropes etc. The tying of these types of restraints is like a build-up, foreplay even and those like So Divine’s Silk Restraints have clips that make them super easy to use. Blindfolds are an exciting element. Pair with maybe a feather tickler and see where feels good, or fun. Laugh together. Body safe candles. Dripped on a person’s body to play with that pain boundary. Taking it further to spank paddles or whips for a different type of sensation. Nipple suckers, for those that like nipple play but are a bit scared of the clamps. Try these instead. A mini massage wand, these can be used to explore all the exterior parts of the body with a mixture of vibration settings. See what reactions it gets.
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The Ultimate Guide to Discreet Sex Toys for Students
For students, finding ways to balance sexual wellness with privacy can be a challenge. Living in dorms, shared apartments, or with roommates means your personal space is limited, and the last thing you want is to attract attention while exploring your sexual health. Discreet sex toys offer the perfect blend of subtlety, affordability, and pleasure, making them ideal for students who want to keep things on the down-low. Why Discreet Toys Are a Great Choice for Students Privacy in Shared Spaces: Whether you live in a dormitory, a shared apartment, or at home, privacy can be hard to come by. Discreet toys are designed to be compact and quiet, so you can enjoy pleasure without worrying about roommates or housemates overhearing Budget-Friendly: As a student, it’s important to find products that fit your budget. Discreet toys are often smaller and more affordable than larger, more elaborate options, making them perfect for those trying to save money while still investing in their sexual health. Quick and Convenient: These toys are designed to offer fast, effective pleasure. They’re perfect for fitting into a busy student schedule, whether you need a quick release between study sessions or a way to unwind after a long day. What to Consider When Choosing a Discreet Toy Noise Level: One of the key features of discreet toys is their quiet operation. Always check the noise level of a toy before buying, especially if you’re in a shared living space. The quieter the toy, the more comfortable you’ll feel using it. Size and Shape: Smaller toys are easier to hide and can often pass as everyday items (like lipstick or makeup brushes). Their compact size also means you can take them with you when traveling or moving between home and your student accommodation. Appearance: Some toys, like the Je T’aime Heart Vibe or vibrating lipstick, are designed to look like ordinary items, making them easier to leave out in the open without suspicion. These are perfect if you’re worried about roommates stumbling upon your toys. Charging Options: Rechargeable toys are a great investment. They’re not only more eco-friendly but also eliminate the need for buying batteries, which can be expensive and inconvenient. Many discreet toys come with USB chargers, making them easy to power up using your laptop or phone charger. Top discreet toy recommendations So Divine Bullet Vibrators Bullet vibrators are the champions of discreet pleasure. These small but powerful vibrators are ideal for beginners and experienced users alike. They’re quiet and easy to store, offering a simple but satisfying experience. You can tuck it away in a drawer or even in a makeup bag! Best for: Quick, effective pleasure that’s easy to access, especially in tight living spaces. It’s the go-to discreet toy for students wanting something simple and efficient Je T’aime Heart Vibrator Shaped like a heart and small enough to fit in the palm of your hand, this toy doesn’t look like a typical vibrator, making it ideal for keeping hidden in plain sight. It can easily be mistaken for a decorative item or even a cosmetic accessory, so no one will suspect a thing. Best for: Solo play and couples who want to enhance their intimate moments with a non-intimidating, cute design. It's a great starter toy for anyone new to sex toys. Amour Lipstick Vibrator As the name suggests, this toy is designed to look exactly like a lipstick, so it’s perfect for students who want maximum privacy. It’s small enough to be carried in your bag or left out in your room without anyone suspecting it’s actually a vibrator. Best for: Students who want a toy that blends seamlessly with their personal belongings. Ideal for keeping in your bag for pleasure whenever and wherever you feel like it. Maintaining Privacy & Care Discreet Packaging: So Divine offers discreet shipping, so you don’t have to worry about nosy housemates or roommates guessing what’s inside your parcel. Your items will arrive in plain, unmarked packaging. Storage Solutions: Some toys come with storage bags or cases that can easily be tucked away in your drawers. If your toy doesn’t come with one, you can use everyday items like makeup bags to keep them hidden. Cleaning: Proper hygiene is key to keeping your toys in top condition. Always clean your toys after each use with warm water and a mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner. Make sure they’re completely dry before storing them to avoid bacteria buildup.
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Embracing Menopause: So Divine Becomes a Gen M Partner
At So Divine, we’re committed to making sexual wellness accessible, comfortable, and empowering for everyone—regardless of age or stage in life. That's why we’re excited to announce a significant step in our journey: So Divine has officially partnered with Gen M and earned the prestigious M-Tick certification for our menopause-friendly range. who are Gen M? Gen M is the menopause partner for brands, created with a clear mission: to make menopause more visible in a purposeful way. They unite brands and retailers to provide better signposting and dedicated spaces for menopause-friendly products, whether in-store, online, or through clear, supportive packaging. what is the M-Tick? The M-Tick is the world’s first universal shopping symbol created to signpost menopause-friendly products. Products carrying this symbol have been approved by Gen M as ‘Menopause Friendly,’ having been tried and tested by menopausal women. To earn the M-Tick, these products must help support one (or more) of the 48 symptoms experienced during menopause. The M-Tick ensures that our products meet the specific needs of people experiencing menopause, making it easier to find solutions designed with their comfort in mind. As part of our commitment to inclusivity and well-being, we’re thrilled to align with Gen M’s mission to normalise the conversation around menopause and provide products that truly make a difference. Why the Menopause-Friendly M-Tick Matters Menopause is a natural phase of life that often comes with its own set of challenges, especially when it comes to intimacy and sexual health. Our menopause-friendly range, now proudly bearing the M-Tick, includes carefully crafted products aimed at boosting confidence and enhancing pleasure during this transition. Whether it's vaginal dryness, decreased libido, or changes in intimacy, our products are designed to address these concerns with sensitivity and care. Our Menopause-Friendly Range Our menopause-friendly range has a variety of products that can help enhance intimacy and restore sexual confidence. Some of the highlights include: Kegel Balls: Perfect for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles, which may weaken during menopause. Dilator Set: Helps to increase comfort and flexibility for those experiencing vaginal tightness or discomfort. Classic Vibrator: Designed for gentle stimulation, making it ideal for those looking to reignite their intimate connection. Each of these products offers unique benefits, ensuring that you can find the right tools to support your body’s changing needs. By becoming a Gen M partner, So Divine is not just acknowledging the importance of menopause wellness—we’re taking active steps to contribute to it. We’re proud to be part of a growing movement to better understand and support people in all stages of menopause. Our M-Tick-certified range is designed to enhance sexual well-being, promote comfort, and most importantly, help you rediscover pleasure on your terms. We believe that everyone deserves to feel confident and empowered in their sexual wellness journey, and this certification is just one way we’re reinforcing that commitment. Together with Gen M, we’re here to make sure that menopause doesn’t mark the end of intimacy but a new chapter of exploration and joy. Discover Our Menopause Range Today Explore our menopause-friendly collection today and see how our M-Tick-certified products can help you maintain an intimate, fulfilling life through all stages of menopause. We’re proud to stand alongside Gen M in normalising menopause conversations and providing solutions that genuinely support your well-being. At So Divine, we’re always here for your pleasure—at every stage of life.
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